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VivianBishopxo: Things I've learned since planning our wedding.

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Things I've learned since planning our wedding.

Guys, I'm a married lady and I still cannot get over it! I am just sitting over here waiting impatiently  patiently to get our wedding photos back so I can start the recaps. I have been thinking about all the different things you come across and experience when planning a wedding, and I thought I would share.

So, here are some things I have learned since planning our wedding..

People will not RSVP - You would think when you self address an envelop and provide a stamp to send back an RSVP, that people would. NOPE. I don't know how many texts or Facebook messages I received either accepting or declining. But that's not all...

People who RSVP may change their mind last minute - Yep...there will be those people who come up with a really bad excuse to not come last minute. It happened two days before and even one day before the wedding. After all of the food was paid for of course.

You will see the people who make an effort - SO true.. I kept reading articles about how people you wouldn't expect to step up and help, will. And some people who should be, sadly won't. Now this isn't the case for every wedding, but it was in mine. You will see what friends make an effort to be there, and who helps in anyway they can.

Pinterest will be your frenemy  - I loved Pinterest so much for inspiration in planning a wedding, but definitely have your own vision before searching on Pinterest. You want your wedding to show your vision and your fiance as a couple, and picking things that look pretty but isn't something you actually like won't do that.

DIY will be A LOT of hard work - Don't let people fool you into thinking that DIY is cheaper and easier. It's not. I did quite a bit of DIY projects for our wedding and let me just say although it was a lot of extra time, they were worth the time and the money. DIY will make your wedding unique from others. It's your time to put your own personal touches on your big day. I did all of our chalkboards, escort cards, guest favors, and our card box. It was worth it.

Things won't always go the way you planned - You gotta let it go girl, after months and months of planning a beautiful wedding you gotta let it go. Just like Frozen said. I had to let a lot go.

Cake people didn't show up on time? Let it go.

Dealing with people asking to bring extra people - the day of the wedding? Let it go.

Your shoes hurt you too bad, so you wear flip flops? Let it gooooo. (no one saw my feet anyway)

If you have a mom like mine, she will be your lifesaver. -  My mom was my right hand and my coordinator the entire time of wedding planning. My poor mom was running around in heels the day of the wedding trying to make sure everyone was where they were supposed to be. She did amazing and I have no idea how to even thank her.

P.S - If you can and it's in your budget - hire a day of coordinator! I wish we would have.

But, through all these things that you will learn in the wedding planning process, the most important is to focus on your future marriage! You can't forget about your fiance in the midst of planning, set aside time - even when you're so busy to talk about how you're feeling or just go on a date. That was important for me. 

Now that it's over though, I'm sad. Of course I have plenty to fill my plate like school, work, a cute puppy, and a really cute new husband - but I miss it. I really enjoyed watching my vision for our day come to life, and now that it's over I need to find someone to let me help them plan their wedding! I'll even do it for the free cake. Desperate much? I think not.

Wedding Wednesday

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At October 22, 2014 at 6:58 AM , Anonymous Anonymous said...

It makes me so sad you had people canceling so last minute. Don't they realize I could have came if they would have RSVP'd on time?! ;) haha

At October 22, 2014 at 8:40 AM , Blogger Samantha Ehredt said...

Looks like we had the same idea today, while impatiently waiting for our pictures :) Loved these tips!

A tip I'd add to combat the RSVP problem - give the caterer a number slightly lower than what you expect. 2 or 3 people off isn't going to cause you to run out of food (if so, your caterer has bigger issues) and it'll save money in the end if (when) people don't show! We gave a headcount 4 people less and ended up having that exact number show up.

At October 22, 2014 at 9:01 AM , Blogger Vivianstonexo said...

Haha I saw that! Great minds think alike ;) I agree! We ended up going lower each time and thankfully we were able to give the final head count the week before and pay final costs, but it still sucked for the last minute cancels. Thankfully I think we only paid for about 4-5 plates extra instead of the 10-15 it would have been a month before!

At October 22, 2014 at 9:02 AM , Blogger Vivianstonexo said...

Ahh you could have come either way!! Duhhh.

At October 22, 2014 at 10:08 AM , Blogger Elizabeth McMullen said...

Life story about letting things go...so many things went wrong the day of the wedding and I am still a little mad about some of them, but I had to let it go...the bottom line is that you got to marry the man of your dreams.
DITTO ABOUT RSVPS. I have learned to get them out ASAP now when people send them to me...

Beardy Heart Beauty

At October 22, 2014 at 6:12 PM , Blogger Amye Mae said...

Haha love the "let it goooo" ...so true though! Especially the day of the wedding, for me it was flowers that didn't look anything like we had discussed. #ohwell #letitgo right? (and thanks for joining the link up!)

At October 22, 2014 at 6:23 PM , Blogger Emilie Talks said...

I can't wait for my wedding day to get here! I just got started with the planning and I can already tell that there's a lot of details that could go wrong. Anyway, I'm glad you loved your wedding day and that you could let go ;)

At October 22, 2014 at 7:04 PM , Blogger andy brienne said...

People RSVPing is the worst! Drives me insane. We made it a requirement to get in, because I'm mean. You guys are cuties!


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